{"id":1189,"date":"2011-12-04T14:04:46","date_gmt":"2011-12-04T19:04:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tedkrever.com\/blog\/?p=1189"},"modified":"2011-12-04T14:04:46","modified_gmt":"2011-12-04T19:04:46","slug":"good-scary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tedkrever.com\/blog\/2011\/12\/04\/good-scary\/","title":{"rendered":"Good Scary"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I was speaking to a woman in the neighborhood the other day. We&#8217;ve known each other for over ten years. She was sitting in the car, waiting for her husband to join her on a trip to their daughter&#8217;s in the city. The daughter works in TV, a successful media person, though not necessarily a household name.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_1190\" style=\"width: 410px\" class=\"wp-caption alignleft\"><a href=\"http:\/\/tedkrever.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/12\/dorothea-langeSkidRow2S.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1190\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1190\" title=\"dorothea langeSkidRow2S\" src=\"http:\/\/tedkrever.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/12\/dorothea-langeSkidRow2S.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"318\" srcset=\"https:\/\/tedkrever.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/12\/dorothea-langeSkidRow2S.jpg 400w, https:\/\/tedkrever.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/12\/dorothea-langeSkidRow2S-300x238.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-1190\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Photograph by Dorothea Lange<\/p><\/div>\n<p>How are things? She&#8217;s okay. He&#8217;s not so okay. He was laid off from his job several years ago and has joined the ranks of the underemployed, moving from manager at a brokerage house to working in the produce section of a local market three days a week. He seems smaller and grayer now than I remember. His good nature is an effort now, as though he has to remember the smile that always came so easily. Her business has fallen off too but she&#8217;s still fighting &#8211; she&#8217;s not sure he is anymore and it&#8217;s clearly a strain between them.<\/p>\n<p>The daughter? She&#8217;s doing fine but fine isn&#8217;t good enough; everything in television is relentlessly moving forward, so doing &#8216;fine&#8217; means you&#8217;re slipping behind. Nothing&#8217;s wrong yet but the pressure builds and the road forward gets foggy.<\/p>\n<p>So how am I? Did she see on Facebook that I&#8217;m seeing someone? Yes. That&#8217;s good &#8211; it&#8217;s about time. You deserve someone nice. 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